Look at yourself
and admire how special you really areQuote from the poem of Menzis advertising
Time to fall in love with yourself again
Many of us measure our self-worth by the judgments of others or by comparing ourselves to another. What we often do not realize: “no one is better than you, and you are not better than someone else“.
We are all beautiful people, regardless of your scars (visible or invisible). Unique.
We are very good at showing compassion to others, but self-compassion is sometimes lacking. Time to change that.
The effects of emotions
Masaru Emoto was a Japanese researcher who conducted several experiments with water. He investigated the effects of emotions such as love and negativity on the water.
Masaru took several samples of water and to one he spoke very lovingly, the other hatefully. Not only with words, but also with music or images. Then he froze the water samples and compared the ice crystals that had formed. The crystals of the water that had been lovingly spoken to, were much more beautiful than the crystals of the water that had been approached negatively.
Men consist of about 65% water. For women this is slightly lower, around 55 – 60%. Knowing this, you can imagine what kind of effect low or high vibration does to you. These vibrations through words, emotions, images, etc., are all stored in your body’s memory.
So if you mainly pay attention to negative thoughts, you will create a very negative (self)image. If you talk to yourself with compassion, you will be softer, kinder to yourself and feel better.
Ask yourself: what do I need now?
Most of the time we are nicer to someone else than to ourselves. What would happen if we did the same to us? Next time you’re insecure or sad, try telling yourself what you would say to someone else.
Get started with the following exercises from the workbook mindful self-compassion by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer:
Do you find it difficult to change your mindset? Together we can have a look at what the possibilities are to help you get rid of your uncertainty.